I hear you say, Before you get on your high horse, just allow me to say that I have spoken to loads of my buddies about this, Black and White and all of them agreed with what I had to say. . .So Can I continue? Cool! .
Yes, being a young black man and living in the UK or in my case London daily it can be as indicated a roller coaster ride. Here are just a few of the examples of the Highs and Lows of being a Black man, well for me anyway!
Firstly I have to say, the something that gets me is the staring, it is the obvious low!
White women, white men, Chinese people etc, they stare, it’s funny but Indian Men and Women don’t stare as much, maybe they feel safe or are just use to the same treatment! Who knows? I mean I could walk on any street, day and night and its always the same, take only the other day, it was 5pm on a Thursday, it was a lovely day, there I was walking up a very prominent road near Holland park, near where I actually live, I walk on the right hand side of any street or road, I do not know why its just my way! So as I was walking, playing songs from my ipod and taking in the sights of the lovely beautiful Houses on this street. Ahead of me I could see a very attractive woman and yes she was white, as I got closer to this lady I noticed that she had been looking directly at me, I thought to myself great she is stunning and she is looking at me, cool! But as we got nearer she paused and crossed over to the other side of the street and as she did, she kept looking back at me. . .Hmm! I thought to myself, not great! Now again, do not fly of the deal but to me it looked like she was scared of me or found me threatening. Which is understandable in this day an age with the way society is but what got me was that this street was fairly long and if she wished to cross over why did not she do it much earlier? But it got worse for me that particular day because within a minute or two. . .it happen again and this time the lady was much older. I was beginning to think that I must seem like a ideal villain in spite of the fact that I was dress quite decent plus I had been carrying my guitar (instance ) on my shoulders.
This could be just the area of Holland Park I hear you say but I will tell you that this occurs every other day to me and also to most Black Men around the united kingdom. We won’t speak about the police and the stop and search variable but I will say that, that’s only gone completely over the top, too much stories to tell so I’ll stop there because that’s just the one of those lows, now allow me to give you a top, I think you deserve to hear the positives in addition to the downsides but after hearing it, would you say it was a positive thing or a negative thing?
Well! . .one of the best things about being a Black Man is the way Women perceive us, Black men attract women in a different way than the normal man, or should I say a white man. White men will always get women because it’s their world and that is fine by me but being Black we’ve got something that they will never have and know. We’ve got the difference! Women who like this gap may tell you, they like it because they just prefer black guys, I think that there is a deeper meaning to the madness. I think it comes down to one thing and that’s fear. I can practically hear you all say, what the hell is this guy talking about? Well take it from me; we know that if we want something and we know we can’t have it, we tend to go out of our way to get it and that is how all of this started, it’s just progressed quietly within different generations, cultures and life generally.
Good to know…
I have travelled around the world and every time I leave the UK I am always racially abused in some way, from airport security around the world to European towns in which there are zero Black guys and so as soon as you get of the plane you become like a alien and everyone stares at you and sees the difference I have been talking about. But going back to the girls for a second or two, they do tend to see something else than their male counterparts. Most times it’s good for me, sometimes it’s not but being just a man you can’t always get the girl! Different women from all over the world prefer a certain type of man, be it about their religious beliefs, or sexually traits or even their fear of the distinction, What I’ve seen and have made a note of is that Asian women i.e. Chinese or Indian won’t be seen dead using a Black guy, Eastern women are a bit different, the new generation of young girls do find Black men more attractive but that is based on the nationality of the Black male. American women are certainly mixing it at the moment much more than ever but that’s down to the way Black men are portrayed in the USA. English Women are showing signs but for me in cosmopolitan London. Irish and Scottish White women will not go down that road. The welsh women are far more receptive to the idea but generally there is still segregation amongst the mixing of Black Men and White Women around the world, again for me it’s very much understandable.
In my case I get lots of attention from White women in fact a great deal more than I’d get from Black ladies, so what does that tell you! If you don’t believe me just check out any dating site, that’s where all of the evidence is. Just look at what the women want and you will see. . .90percent of the women want white men and only 10% do not care what the guy looks like. Why, Well! Again that’s just the way the world is, taste is very important to most people.
So the ride continues. . .we have had our ups and downs, what more can I add, well the worse part of this ride for me is straightforward and it is how society sees Black men as a whole! This is a touchy subject that haunts me to the core of my soul but what people really don’t understand is that being Black we see things very easy, we do not go around thinking we’re better than anyone that’s the first thing, we don’t see racism through our eyes when we look at a different culture, we do not question why you are that color and why we are this colour but with how we’ve been duped by the planet with easy things like Great is shown by the colour White and Bad is revealed as Black, its easy things like this that continues beliefs in white culture which color Black should be feared.
Also the absence of White people around the World, not knowing just where they come from and their own history, Being a Black Man or Black Woman we naturally want to understand our roots and we pursue this everyday and the majority of the new generation of Blacks around the world know much more about where they come from, much more than a White Person. The History of Black people is seldom told so we’re left to our own devices to find the questions and answers so that we can be the proud people and race which we are today. Bear in mind this is just my view point of the situation about being a Black. Yours may be different but that is what makes us the people we are. So now and the next day and the months and years ahead I will continue my Roller Coaster Ride as a Black guy and hopefully I will see some changes in my time, Hopefully!